ADHD Dating Profile Tips: A Profile You Can Finish Tonight

Done beats perfect

The profile you finish tonight will do better than the brilliant one you plan to write next week. Many people with ADHD start a dating profile, get stuck on the bio, and leave it with one blurry photo and an empty box. Set a timer for twenty minutes, follow the steps below, and press save. You can always improve it once people are writing to you.

Photos: three or four that look like you now

• A clear, smiling face photo for the first one, in daylight, no sunglasses.
• One of you doing something you love: the bike, the guitar, the allotment, the half-built Lego.
• One full-length photo, taken in the last year or so.
• Skip group shots where nobody can tell which one is you.

Choose them from your camera roll before you open the site, so you do not get lost scrolling halfway through.

The bio: five lines

Write one line each on these, and you are done.

1. What you are into right now. ADHD interests change, so be honest that this month it is sourdough.
2. What a good weekend looks like for you.
3. Something specific people could ask you about.
4. What you are hoping to find: a relationship, friendship, something casual, or you will know it when you see it.
5. One line about ADHD, if you want to include it.

Specific beats general every time. "I love travel" tells nobody anything. "I have been to every lighthouse in Cornwall and want to do Scotland next" gives someone a first message.

How to mention ADHD

You do not have to, but on a site built around ADHD it is a good way to show who you are. Keep it light and about how it affects dating, not a medical history. A few lines that work:

• "ADHD brain: expect enthusiasm, tangents and the occasional late reply."
• "Diagnosed at 38, still finding out what that explains."
• "I will forget where I put my keys, never what you told me about your sister."

Tap the interest labels

Interest labels are quick to choose and help the matching suggest people who share them, so pick every one that genuinely fits. They also give people an easy opener when they write to you.

Writing the first message

Pick one specific thing from their profile and ask about it. "Which lighthouse was best?" works far better than "hey". Keep it to two or three lines. If you tend to send long, enthusiastic paragraphs, save those for the third message. And if you go quiet for a few days, a quick "sorry, my brain wandered off, how was the climbing?" is all it takes to pick things up again.

Keep it fresh

Update one photo or one line every few weeks. New details give people a reason to look again, and it is a good way to restart a profile you had forgotten about. When you are ready for the next step, our ADHD first date ideas will help you choose where to go, and how it works explains the badges that appear on your profile as you use the site.

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