Choosing an app 7 min read
Best ADHD Dating Sites and Apps
The best ADHD dating site or app depends on what you need most. ADHD Singles is built around ADHD itself. Hiki is the largest app for neurodivergent people and keeps friendship and dating apart. Mattr is a London app without swiping. Hinge and Bumble offer the biggest pools, but nobody there is chosen for understanding ADHD.
By the ADHD Singles team
The short version
- ADHD Singles is built around ADHD; everyone joins knowing what it is about.
- Hiki is the biggest neurodivergent app and keeps friendship and dating apart.
- Mattr is a no-swipe London app that now serves a wider alternative crowd.
- Hinge and Bumble have the biggest pools but no ADHD focus.
- Try two and see where the conversations feel easiest.
The main options at a glance
| Option | Best for | ADHD focus | Basic tier |
|---|---|---|---|
| ADHD Singles | Meeting people who already understand ADHD, in the UK and USA | Built around it | Yes, with daily messages |
| Hiki | The biggest neurodivergent community, friendship or dating | One of several neurodivergent groups it serves | Yes |
| Mattr | London singles who want no swiping and a creative crowd | Launched for autism and ADHD; now broader | Yes |
| Hinge | A huge pool of people wanting relationships, with prompts | None | Yes, limited likes |
| Bumble | A huge general pool, changing fast in 2026 | None | Yes |
We run one of these, so read the table with that in mind. Everything said about the others comes from their own pages, app store listings or reporting we could check in October 2026, and our comparisons go into three of them in more detail.
What matters when you have ADHD
Before choosing, it is worth knowing what trips you up on dating apps. If endless swiping leaves you scrolling at 2am without sending a single message, look for apps that show a few matches a day. If you forget to reply and then feel too embarrassed to pick it back up, look for people who will not take that personally. If blank message boxes leave you stuck, prompts and interest labels help. And if impulsive spending is a risk, check how subscriptions renew before you pay for anything.
ADHD Singles
ADHD Singles is a dating site for adults with ADHD and people who like dating them. Everyone joins knowing what it is about, so ADHD is the starting point rather than a confession. You get a short list of suggested matches each day, Classic membership with a set number of messages daily, free ID checks or video checks, a members' feed and group chats, and it runs on a laptop as well as a phone. Most members are in the UK and the USA, and most are between 35 and 54. It is a specialist site, so it will always be smaller than the giants: check who is near you, which Classic membership lets you do.
Hiki
Founded in New York in 2019, Hiki serves autistic, ADHD and wider neurodivergent adults with both friendship and dating. A November 2025 CBS News report put its user base at over 350,000 people in 100 countries, the largest of its kind. It matches on special interests, keeps friendship and dating separate, and offers video messaging and communication preferences. It is an iPhone and Android app with a Premium subscription. Read ADHD Singles vs Hiki.
Mattr
Mattr launched in London in 2023 as a dating app for people with autism and ADHD, founded by Jamie Johnston, who has ADHD. It now describes itself as an app for LGBTQ+, neurodivergent, creative and alternative singles. There is no swiping, just a small number of curated profiles a day, plus a time-out switch, video replies and mood check-ins. In October 2026 its iPhone listing named London and had not been updated since September 2024, so check it for people near you. Read ADHD Singles vs Mattr.
Hinge
Hinge is the mainstream app many people with ADHD get on with best: no swiping, three prompts on every profile to comment on, voice notes, and nudges when it is your turn to reply. It is owned by Match Group and has a vast user base, almost none of it chosen for understanding ADHD. Its basic app comes with limited daily likes. Read ADHD Singles vs Hinge.
Bumble
Bumble is one of the biggest general apps, best known for women messaging first. That changed in August 2026, when Bumble announced that either person can now send the first message and the time to reply was stretched from 24 to 72 hours. It has also said it will replace swiping with an AI matchmaker in some countries from late 2026, and its friendship side, BFF, has become a separate app. It may suit you, but expect it to look different in a few months.
How to choose
Ask yourself three things. Do I want the people I meet to already understand ADHD, or am I happy to explain? Do I want friendship and dating mixed or separate? And is there anyone near me? Then try two and see where the conversations feel easiest. Once you have picked, our ADHD dating profile tips will get your profile finished tonight.
Questions people ask
Is there a dating app just for people with ADHD?
ADHD Singles is a dating site built around ADHD that works on any phone. Hiki and Mattr serve the wider neurodivergent community.
What is the best dating app for ADHD?
It depends on what you need. For shared understanding of ADHD, a specialist site; for the biggest pool, a mainstream app such as Hinge.
How do ADHD dating apps charge?
Each option here sells paid upgrades on top of a basic membership. On ADHD Singles, Classic members get a set number of messages each day.
Should I use more than one dating app?
Many people do at first. Once you know where the best conversations are happening, it is easier to focus.